Your Emotions Are Not Your Enemy

Hello and welcome, beautiful souls!

Emotional Resilience is a valuable quality that allows for us to become more flexible and aware of our emotional state. It teaches us how to ACCEPT each moment for what it is without becoming overly emotionally identified to our experiences. When we cultivate emotional resilience it heals our trauma and makes us feel more connected and safe in our Being.

We’ve been taught societally to reject, deny, escape or run away from our emotions. Most of us have labeled them as “bad” or just straight up, not valuable. We aren’t taught to see our emotions as teachers and as what truly shapes us into who we were meant to be. We have a very dysfunctional relationship with our emotions and then wonder why we end up in relationships that are dysfunctional.

Our emotional state is how we communicate with the Universe, it is also how we communicate to ourselves and the people around us. Our lack of awareness around our emotional state can greatly impact our ability to relate and communicate in a healthy way. We end up reACTing and communicating from our Inner child wounds, rather than from our conscious state of the here and now.

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A lot of people are so unaware of their emotions that they don’t even realize that they are controlling their behavior. Their emotional state and behavior have become habitual. When we act from habit we will create the same emotional state we’re trying to “escape” or numb in the first place, which turns into a vicious cycle of Self Sabotage, keeping us from the very thing we deeply desire; intimacy, closeness and connection.

In order to become aware of our emotional state we have to become PRESENT with our bodies, we have to slow down and listen to what we are feeling. When we don’t, they stay stuck in our bodies and end up creating aches, pains, illness, disease, discomfort, anxiety and depression. The more we deny our feelings, reject them, push them away, act like they don’t exist or matter, translates into behavior that reflects that same emotion to your Self, keeping you in shame spirals of; “im not good enough” “i am invisible” “my feelings and I don’t matter”. Essentially you end up betraying yourself and how you’re feeling because you would rather be rejected by your Self than by an external event or person.

We try so hard to control our emotions. But trying to control our emotions only puts us in a state of resistance. Sure, there are going to be times when we aren’t feeling our best and maybe the people around us are, that does not mean that we have to meet them where they are, that our emotions of sadness or anger are less acceptable and unworthy of being felt, seen and expressed.

Authentic Self Expression is how we truly begin to heal ourselves emotionally. We have to practice getting comfortable with the discomfort of the emotions we want to run away from or mask and we have to practice being honest with ourselves, because it’s only when we’re honest that we can express ourselves truthfully and authentically.

When we hide or shame or reject certain emotions it’s like we’re neglecting different parts of ourselves, this creates a sense of fragmentation that makes us feel disconnected, abandoned and not good enough. We struggle to feel whole and fulfilled because we’re denying parts of ourselves that want and need to feel seen, heard and accepted.

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If we struggle to accept our current emotional state we are going to try anything we can to “get out of it”. And this tells your Self that you are not worthy, that you aren’t loveable as you are. BUT you are, beloved, you are very much loveable even in your worst of times, even in the times where you're hurting and aching and breaking.

Life is meant to break you open and your EMOTIONS were created specifically to HEAL, to be medicine for your broken heart. When we truly start to tend to our emotional state we see and feel that it is our brokenness that allows for more light to get in and for more love to FILL us.

Emotional Resilience helps us become softer in the face of our hardships. It teaches us how to be more compassionate amongst the friction. It allows for us to become stronger in the face of pain and defeat. It is the remedy that shapes us, that molds us and keeps us moving, growing and evolving.

When we don’t feel our emotions we become stuck, we feel like a victim to them or like we’re at war with them. This creates so much disharmony in our bodies, which manifests in our physical lives and it's all we see when we look at the world.

But when we can begin to feel those lower based emotions, rather than pretending they don’t exist we allow ourselves to surrender, open and flow and we begin to embody an emotional state of peace, acceptance, love, joy and fulfillment. We start to feel whole again, and strong again and healthy again. We start to see the love and peace and beauty that surrounds us.

When we can become conscious of our emotional state throughout the day, by practicing mindfulness, we can navigate our day with much more ease. We feel a sense of control over our lives again because we’re no longer hiding our TRUEST SELF, our emotions, in order to please others. We are vulnerable and courageous and we form a new and healthy relationship to Life itself. We no longer see it as something that is happening to us, but rather it is happening FOR us.

Your emotions are not your enemy. They are like your little children. They need attention, acceptance and nurturing. They don’t need you neglecting them and pretending they don’t exist. That only makes them stronger and more easy to trigger. Tend to your emotions like you would a young child.

When our Inner Children feel safe, seen and heard they can express themselves in a healthy way. When you validate your own emotions your Inner Children begin to feel recognized and valued. This allows for you to no longer act out irrationally because you’re regulating your Self and you’re responding from a state of conscious awareness.

It is our Presence with our Emotional Selves that creates a feeling of connection and wholeness. As soon as we disconnect from our HEARTS we abandoned ourselves and that’s how we will FEEL, all day long. But when you prioritize your relationship with your Emotional Self (Inner Child) and your beautiful sacred heART you become a Guardian, a parent for your Self and you feel infinitely supported.

You may feel like you’re doing it all alone, that you’re unlovable, that there's something “wrong” with you. But there isn’t beloved. You are perfectly imperfect as you are. Even when you’re feeling low, sad, depressed, anxious or angry. Your emotions are not who you are. Once you can begin to express them in a healthy way you no longer hold them so closely to you. Your emotions are meant to come and go. Just like the tides of the ocean.

The more we cling to our emotions and the more we suppress and deny them the more identified to them we become, the more control they have over us and the more imbalanced we feel, in mind, body and soul.

Your Emotional Freedom comes when you let all your emotions have a seat at the table. When you stop hiding parts of you to make others more comfortable. Others are going to react from their own wounding or from their own awareness. How others perceive you will never be something you can control, so please, don’t hide your beautiful heart away just because you’re afraid of who or what you might lose when you authentically express your Self.

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Thank you for reading!

Love and blessings, Ashley <3