Single Ladies

This for all the girls out there who are in their youth, still living on hope & believing that dreams come true, for the girls who are still pure in their hearts & minds, that know their future is bright amidst the darkness. The girls who see what is, before they’re told what to believe & how to see. To the girls who will someday grow up to be teenagers with rebellious desires, that crave to disobey the patriarchal structure that has been put in place to protect their purity, their innocence & their future.

But has been captured by men that are ravenous wolves dressed in sheepskins, that portray as holy, but in their hearts they are far from God. The men that are so filled with pride that they want to dominate women without respecting them, without honoring them as their rib, as part of their flesh & instead use them to manipulate, coerce & control. This is for you. That you may have the eyes to see & the ears to hear that men, were never meant to be like this. They were created in the likeness of God, a God who is merciful, just, loyal, stable, upright, forgiving, trustworthy & incapable of lying… who is far from these attributes we see in men in power today.

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” || Genesis‬ ‭1:27‬

I speak to all the women who are now in early adulthood, who are living in survival mode, who may have lost hope in their dreams of youth, to the women who have lost their pureness through the evilness that lives in this world just waiting to snatch it right out of your hands. To the women who feel like their life has been stolen by the predator that moves about this earth looking to devour the souls of God. For all the women that grew up, only to be mislead by their selfish ambitions & sensual desires, that were misguided by their flesh, modeled to you by modern day culture. Through promiscuous magazines & movie scenes that sexualized your body & implanted the belief that you were a possession to be owned by men & ruled by their pleasures. Through all the domestic violence you may have witnessed in your home, on the streets or through the media. Through the normalization of trauma & abuse that seems impossible to bring to a halt. To the women who are wounded little girls struggling to see the light, that are yearning for justice & are thirsty for vengeance. To see the wrongdoings of what they experienced to be made right.

I see you, I hear you & you’re not alone. I know how it feels to want freedom over your body & freedom of your mind, to not be controlled by your thoughts & emotions created by the trauma you experienced as that young girl that was vulnerable & left unprotected, left in the hands of trusted people that took advantage of you & betrayed you. You have every right to be upset, to be struggling with addiction, to be struggling with anxiety, depression, PTSD, anger & rage. It’s okay that you feel out of control, because at one time, you were completely out of control. You had no one to defend you, to protect you & to shield you from the wicked ways of the earth & the evil that lives here.

“Our soul waits for the Lord; he is our help and our shield. For our heart is glad in him, because we trust in his holy name. Let your steadfast love, O Lord, be upon us, even as we hope in you.” || Psalm‬ ‭33:20-22‬

This is for all the single ladies out there, that long to be held & shielded & loved & wanted & safe in the presence of a man. I have yearned for this my whole life, to feel the security of a God fearing man, that loves like Jesus & that honors & respects me like I deserve to be treated. That wants to protect my purity & nurture my health, in my body & spirit. That strengthens my faith & brings me closer to God. I pray that you would come to know the Maker of your body, of your heart & soul, so that through His Presence you would be healed of all the pain & suffering you may have endured at the hands of man, of the terror that struck you to your core & shaped the way you saw yourself & the world. That you may be given a new heart, a heart of flesh that allows you to forgive your perpetrators & be renewed in the Spirit of the Living God. The God that can give you justice for what has been done to you & bring you the peace & power that was stolen from you. The God that will shine His Light upon your darkened places within & bring growth to what has long been dead & decayed by the thief that robbed you of your innocence & turned your heart to stone & blinded your mind with lies.

“And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.” || Ezekiel‬ ‭36:26‬

In the eyes of God you are purified & revived from what was the death of your youth. From what broke you down & made you feel like damaged goods. That left you feeling used & abused & worthless. You are so much more than your trauma. When you are born again in the Holy Spirit you are released from the chains of your past & you are free from what has made you feel bound, weighed down with guilt & suffocating under the pressure of silence. You are free in the Name of Jesus Christ who binds up all wounds & produces life where there was once only barren land. He takes what has broken you & He turns it into a masterpiece, a hand crafted testimony that bears witness to His mercy & forgiveness. His craftsmanship rebuilds what has need destroyed by the enemy & faith in Him, as your redeemer, are the support beams that hold you together when you feel like you’ve been lost & scattered into a million pieces, fragmented by the world & its destruction.

You are precious in the sight of the Son of Man. He sees you as perfect & whole & beautiful, even when you don’t feel that way inside. He is the turning point in your life that you’ve been waiting to come to. He is calling you by your name, not by your sin. He is calling you by your future glory in Him, not by your suffering in the past. You are His Image come to life. You are fearfully & wonderfully made by His Hands that guide you & hold you & protect you from the schemes of the devil that call you by your fears, that capture your mind with doubt, that torture your heart with sorrow over the past, that distract you from keeping your eyes fixed on the Creator of your Soul. You have a purpose on this earth & in His Kingdom. Even when you feel like you don’t belong, or that you’re unwanted, or a burden. You are favored by God, by Jesus Christ. He loves you, for who you were & who you will become.

“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.”

|| Proverbs‬ ‭31:25-31‬

Even when you didn’t know Him, He always knew you. He formed you in your mothers womb, He saw you in the darkness when you couldn’t even see yourself. He has covered you in every cell that makes up your existence, He has clothed you in strength & dignity so that you can celebrate who you are, IN HIM. You are not what the world has told you, you are. You were made for so much more than your mind can comprehend & when you seek Him & all His righteousness, all those hopes & dreams you had in your youth will be given unto you & you will abound in His Amazing Grace & you will hear the sound of His voice welcoming you Home. You will feel the sweet embrace of His all-encompassing peace that drowns all other experiences of heartache in His True Love.

True Love does exist, this I know for sure. In His Name all opposing forces of fear masked as love, as manipulation parading as love, as abuse mimicking love, is revealed. All that has been hidden comes to light in His presence. The love that you have sought in every other place upon the earth cannot compare to the True Love of Jesus Christ. There is nothing & no one that will give you what you need. No other promise that will fill the empty void. In all your wants & all your desires He is there. He knows you better than anyone else, because He created you. He knows what you say before you say it. He knows your thoughts before they are thought. He knows your secrets & He knows your shame. He knows your sins & He knows your good deeds. He sees you when you’re sleeping & He knows when you arise. He is there. Through thick & thin. Through good times & bad. Through sickness & health. There’s not a day that you have lived or are living now, that He has not already seen. Where you were & where you will go, He has already been. He is all that has ever been & all that will ever be. He abides in you & He abides in me, eternally.

“O Lord, you have searched me and known me! You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from afar. You search out my path and my lying down and are acquainted with all my ways. Even before a word is on my tongue, behold, O Lord, you know it altogether. You hem me in, behind and before, and lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high; I cannot attain it. Where shall I go from your Spirit? Or where shall I flee from your presence? If I ascend to heaven, you are there! If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there! If I take the wings of the morning and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, even there your hand shall lead me, and your right hand shall hold me. If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me, and the light about me be night,” even the darkness is not dark to you; the night is bright as the day, for darkness is as light with you. For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them. How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them! If I would count them, they are more than the sand. I awake, and I am still with you.” || Psalm‬ ‭139:1-18‬

Thank you for reading!

Blessings be with you, Ashley <3

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